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Good therapy isn’t about fixing your problems– it’s so much more than that! Good therapy is about having a safe place to unpack those problems, figure out what’s lying underneath those problems, understand their impact on you and your life, and having a support as you begin to deal with those problems in whatever manner befits it, whether that’s acceptance or change. A good therapist will be a companion on that journey.

But realizing that I can’t change them has also been freeing, because now I am no longer burdened with a task that has always been impossible.

If shame thrives off of secrecy, silence, and judgment, then the opposite of those things is honesty, vulnerability, and empathy.

Week 6 – Mid-Week Update I’ve been making friends in my therapy program, and it’s been awesome, but it also has been making me a little anxious. The reason is because I am a convicted chronic overfunctioner. Overfunctioning in relationships (all of them, not just romantic ones) is when one person does more emotional (and

The basis of nonviolent communication is compassionate communication, in which there is no violence, anger, or blame present within the heart, with a goal of allowing everyone’s needs to be met through the innate sense of compassion present within all of us.

The response another person’s pain calls for is empathy, which requires that we are “willing to be present to someone’s pain” (Brené Brown, Atlas of the Heart, pg. 122) – not that we feel their pain for them, but that we are capable of and willing to sit with the uncomfortable feelings that arise when we see someone else in pain.

Feelings of Inferiority Recently in group we talked about resentments, not in the sense of what we usually consider resentment, but in the sense of emotions that we feel over and over again, or “re-sentiments.” There were different resentments that we talked about, like guilt resentments, shame resentments, anger resentments, feelings of inferiority resentments, feeling

Mental Illness x Art This weekend I came across a song that’s been living rent free in my head since I saw it. It’s not a new song, but I only just found out about the artist recently. The song is called “Hi Ren,” and it’s by Ren Gill, usually known as just Ren (link

I can still hold them accountable, while understanding that they had a context and a history and trauma in their past too; they could have done their best with the circumstances they had AND their best could’ve been not good enough; I can empathize with them and still know that they mistreated me.

It’s very easy to go from sending the message that you’re there for someone when they’re in need, to sending the message that you’re only available when they’re in need.